First up in our Ask A #MentorMom series, we have five questions and answers for Elizabeth. I hope you gain as much from this wisdom as I have!
I remember the day Kai asked me about how he could be saved. It happened right after he watched a video about the Bible. My heart was bursting with excitement. I had been praying for this moment for a while now and it was finally here! He had taken the first step, but now what else did I need to do to lead him into a life that follows Christ?
Elizabeth (my mom) is our #MentorMom for today. She will share with you what she has learned through 37 years of being a mom and her thoughts on key ways to lead your kids into a life that follows Christ with a heart for serving him.
As a #MentorMom, What did you do to help your children to grow in their faith?
I have always believed that the only one that can make our faith grow is God himself. My prayer for my daughters (even as grown up women) has always been for the Lord to draw and attract them back to him, so that they love him and cannot do life without him.
My responsibility as a mom has always been to pray for their salvation. I believe that when parents pray for their children, God’s response to their prayers is beyond our wildest imaginations as parents.
I love the Lord with all my strength and I can understand how he, and he alone, is the answer for their lives.
Along with prayer and trusting, there are things we can and ought to do as parents so our kids are ready and able to hear Truth. Things like taking them to church, reading the Bible to and with them, becoming their teachers, taking them to church camps and sending them on adventures that stretch and grow them.
As a #MentorMom, What was one of your worst experiences as a mom?
My profession is teaching, and during the many years that I worked as a Mom, I would come home very tired. Because we lived in Mexico, I was able to hire a cleaning lady to help me with the house work once per week. I appreciated that help sooooo much.
As a result of my exhaustion, I was not paying close enough attention one time when she was giving one of my daughters a bath.
The hot water wasn’t working for some reason that day so she decided to boil some water on the stove. There were three steps going down the bathroom and she positioned the hot water pot on the middle step.
My daughter liked to jump the steps to go in the bathroom and the cleaning lady would catch her. As she was going through the air, her left foot skimmed the surface of the boiling water.
The pain it causes me to this day, thinking about my part in causing that to happen, is immense. I wish it’d never happened.
I ran out the door with my daughter in my arms. My husband met me at the ER. Thankfully, it happened when she was very little so she doesn’t remember the pain and there is hardly even a scar to be seen.
As a #MentorMom, What do you know now that you wish you knew then?
Now I see the things that happen around me without worrying as much. As a teacher I used to want my daughters to be the best in school and I would stress out about it.
I have learned how to apply God’s promises to both my life and my daughter’s lives. I have seen how God always responds, with or without me worrying about it.
If I could go back in time, I would live a more tranquil life, without choosing to worry for my daughters as much. As my stress would go up, their behavior would always decline.
As a#MentorMom, What areas of mothering do you wish you had let go of?
Having high expectations would often cause me to go through the day with an “on edge” mindset, always being ready to scold, and never being ready to give grace.
I would have preferred to not care so much about what other people thought. I would have been so far less demanding as a mom to three precious little girls. Treating them like that, would drain my energy and typically exacerbate behavioral issues.
I think, as moms, many times we get upset about things that are not that important, yet we give them far too much value.
As a #MentorMom, How can I keep growing in my relationship with God as a mom?
Spending time daily alone with Him! Make this your #1 priority above all else. Enjoy being in his presence. Don’t speak. Just like Mary taught us, the best part of being with Jesus is not serving him, it is simply sitting at Jesus’s feet listening to him. Paying attention to his voice, without asking for anything, only admiring him.
That is the best part, when you pour out yourself to him. You will find, He fills you back up fuller than you thought you could be and your strength will not wain. Your first response to your kids will be grace and your day will go so much better.
When all you want to do is disappear instead, choose to sit with him, with no masks, with a sincere heart that is resting in him. Know that he created you and that he understands you through the most difficult times in your life.
From one mom, to another mom, I encourage you to learn that you can rest in his presence.