I remember my honeymoon so well. I was sick the first two days from the stress of the wedding. We went to Cancun and stayed at the most beautiful resort I have even been to, but that didn’t change our desire to want to go home to start our lives together! Living together meant that all of our material and emotional clutter was moving in too. Through these last ten years of marriage, Andrew and I have learned so much about how to live life to the fullest.
I compiled our life experiences in five easy lessons so we can show our kids that living life to the fullest is really a great way to live.
#1 Live A Life Of Purpose
Living a life of purpose doesn’t just happen because we decide to do so. Our purpose comes from the designer of our life. To be able to understand our purpose we have to stay connected with the source of life’s meaning which is God.
“But the plans of the Lord stay for ever, the purpose of his heart through all generations” Psalm 33:11
I want my kids to sow this truth into their hearts. That their purpose comes from God.
#2 Money is a tool, not the goal
I remember going to college thinking that it was the last piece I needed to achieve a fulfilling life. O how wrong I was. Many young people choose their careers based on how much money they think they will make some day and they end up working at a job that makes their lives miserable.
That happened to me. I remember dreading going to sleep every night because I knew that I would wake up the next morning to a job that I hated but paid the bills.
I want my children to have the freedom to choose the best option for their lives. I want them to utilize money to design a life of purpose without letting money control their decisions. Like the old saying says, “work to live, don’t live to work.”
#3 Don’t let debt set you back
Did you know that having debt is one of the top causes of depression among adults? And it is also one of the leading causes of divorce.
Andrew and I are on our way to becoming debt free. We used to struggle to enjoy the things we had and the vacations we would take because we would wonder how we were going to pay for them.
A lot of our decisions were based on our debt and we were just not feeling much freedom in our lives.
I want our kids to gain control of their their finances, to be content while waiting and to practice self-control.
#4 Don’t let things become your identity or value
One of the hardest things for people to do is to let go of their things.
We can find so many reasons to not add one more thing to the Goodwill pile, “It might come in handy later,” “I could sell this,” “I might wear it next winter,” These are all phrases that I said or thought at some point.
We give so much value to this junk that is only robbing joy from our lives.
I want our kids to know that things will someday become dust. I want them to believe that things don’t add more value to who they already are.
Have you heard the saying “keep your friends close and your enemies closer?” What a miserable life that person must have had to think that this was a wise way to live.
I think forgiving someone is one of the hardest things to do. It feels like if we forgive, it is the same as not acknowledging and accepting the wrongdoing.
I want our kids to know that forgiving declutters their mind and soul, that It gives them an opportunity to keep living without an extra load on their shoulders.
Keeping your enemies attached to your heart will only make for a very unhappy and sickly life.
Are you living life to the fullest? Let me know in the comments if you would add anymore lessons to my list. I love hearing from you!
Let’s talk again soon…