I was standing in front of the kitchen sink when I felt a little finger poking my back. Kai was in need of some quality-time.
“Mami would you play with me?”
He had been very patient but I still had so much to do.
“Not right now, I need to finish cleaning the house.”
I didn’t give him the answer that he wanted to hear. I was focused and I needed to finish before our house showing that afternoon.
For the past three months, most of my answers to my kids’ requests have been some form of “no.” Selling our house has taken a lot of my time and energy.
The good news today is that we finally sold the house! We are all moved in to our new place and we are loving our new suburban renters lifestyle. I have learned so much from this experience though.
I have decided to spend more quality-time with my kids, even when I have a to-do list that never gets any shorter. It doesn’t mean that they are going to be doing everything with me and that I don’t get to have some time by myself, (time by yourself is a for of self-care) but I am going to focus on them more intentionally.
It means that I will let them be part of what I am doing as much as I can.
These four activities have helped me and can help you to spend quality-time with your kids and still get things done!
Make dinner together
My kids love helping me make dinner. One of their favorite things is to mix all the ingredients and watching other people eat what they have made.
The best part is that it’s an easy way to connect with your kids and still check off one of the things you have to do every day. It can get a little stressful if you don’t have a plan, though.
I have found that the easiest way for my kids and I to enjoy making dinner together is when I have everything ready before-hand. All they have to do is mix together the ingredients!
One of my excuses for not exercising is that I don’t have time because my kids are with me most of the time.
Exercising can be a fun activity to do with your kids. You don’t have to follow a work out routine to do so. Just taking a bike ride or going swimming will get the job done. Instead of going to the gym, schedule an activity with your kids that involves physical activity.
Create a family book club
If you have older kids that are able to read books that you would be interested in reading too, you can make reading a quality-time activity.
Instead of joining a book club outside the home, create a book club for your kids and you. Pick a book that everyone wants to read and get together every so often to read together and talk about it.
You will be able to have personal reading time and also learn more about the way your kids think. It can open up really good conversations.
Make cleaning a game
Who likes to clean? I don’t at all. If I could afford it, I would pay someone to do it for me. Specially laundry, my 15 minutes laundry method has help a lot though.
Even though I don’t like it, it has to get done!
It is especially hard to do with little kids following me around leaving behind a trail of little messes. This is one of the things that takes up so much of my time. Sometimes, I have to choose between cleaning and playing with my kids.
One way to solve this predicament is to make cleaning a race game. Set the timer and compete against your kids for who can pick up a room, fastest. Or, see who can clean the bathroom fastest. You get the idea.
All kids love competition, especially races. You can even make a tournament out of it!
For us moms, our to-do lists are always full and sometimes spending quality-time with our kids doesn’t make it on to the list.
What are some other ways that you have found helpful to love on your kids and also get things done?